how marriage changed me as a mother


"I was the kind of mother who told you my son’s name before I introduced myself," writes Meilan Carter-Gilkey. "No one could get to know me without knowing Kamau because we were a unit. I was a single mother, just two months into being 20, and I took my child everywhere."

Carter-Gilkey and her son were a pair for more than a decade, until she met her future husband David. When a single mom and son duo becomes a trio, there’s a necessary but difficult shift that needs to be made, she writes.

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